Hello,
It sounds like you have a solid plan and a amazing work effort but you have one last hurdle to get over. I understand what you are going through and I know you hear that a lot.
I hope I am not being to nosey, but what all have you tried?
One thing that really helped me was heavier weight training but it toned me up. I know most women fear getting huge but it's the complete opposite.
If I could refer you to any helpful sources I will do so....