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1  Parents' Lounge / General Parenting / Is my 5 year old normal? on: September 15, 2014, 12:54:11 PM
Hello,

It's been a very long time since I've posted anything as my husband and I have been trying endlessly over the years trying to find out if our 5 year old COULD be autistic.
Now, why we even think this is simply because her hand flapping has become a concern. I've read on the internet that hand flapping is also associated with children who don't fall into ASD group. I understand that it's not quite normal as it also could mean a movement disorder. When I speak to doctors they don't assume she is autistic but they are French doctors and they are behind in medicine compared to Countries like Australia, UK, USA. I also believe hand flapping is not so common here either. They say she is too smart to be autistic but I also read that  you can be extremely smart AND autistic. Like a lot of concerned parents, I worry about bullying and school. She is an easy target for bullies as she is also the size of a 3 year old and she is already being teased by local kids for her size and hand flapping. I'm hoping there is a way I can at least control the flapping.

This is why the doctors don't think she is autistic. In brackets indicates age of milestone achieved.

Count 1-10 (1 yr)
Alphabet in order from A-Z (18 mo.)
Colours & basic shapes (between 1-18mo)
Know first and last name (18 mo.s and told once)
Learns VERY quickly
Good sense of humour
Very outgoing
Speaks clearly and in 6+ word sentences since 2(?)
Loves learning
Makes friends easily
Long attention span for things she loves
reaching all her milestones either early or a bit late (didn't walk until 14mo)
Loves books and learning in general
Knows full name, address
Knows how to read, write some sight words

Why I think she COULD be autistic

Hand flapping since 18 mo.s of age (since we did a big travel overseas) - involves flapping and shaking head from side to side in a circular motion with her mouth open sometimes however it's only been hand flapping (like a bird) for for quite some time now. I notice it's when she is excited and mostly when she is watching TV however I had a teacher tell me once  (2 years ago) that she does it in school too and there was one other boy in her class who flapped too and they were like twins in character.
INCREDIBLY loud (home, public)
Talks A LOT
Listens only when she wants to - If I ask her what did she do at school, the conversation goes off topic to something completely unrelated like talking about seeing dinosaurs (example, not literally) but if I push a little more, eventually she will tell me something related to the topic.
She does sometimes ask the same question a few times in a row, or show repetitive speech even if you've answered however that is only when talking on the phone with her grandmother when she wants attention but still concerns me a bit.
I've only met one other kid like her, the boy in her class.
She has an incredible amount of energy.
She has always needed less sleep.
Very immature and does completely silly things (home,public)
Very short attention span with things unrelated to interests

However at school, she is one of the best students academically in the class. She's like a completely different child at school. Teachers see no problems with her but her behaviour at home is strange. I don't know if she behaves like this at school but the teachers just dismiss it as being "typical for her age" or she is really normal.

She has been flapping a lot less over the years but I hear hand flapping is mostly associated with autism. as well as some of the abovementioned is a red flag for autism as well.

Is there anyone else who is experiencing this with their child?







2  EARLY LEARNING / Homeschooling / Re: Homeschool for FREE.... Tons of sites all FREE and complete curriculum on: September 08, 2013, 03:08:02 PM
Thanks for the links! I'm already familiar with easy peasy and these homeschooling parents are huge inspirations. I wish I had the dedication and drive to create and produce my own HS curriculum.
3  EARLY LEARNING / Teaching Your Child - Other Topics / Re: Developing vocabulary for a four year old on: September 08, 2013, 03:05:01 PM
Thanks for the suggestion. We already have a fair few playschool DVDs that I bought when we went to Australia for a holiday. She really loves playschool and we virtually watch it every day. She is also a big fan of the wiggles.
4  EARLY LEARNING / Teaching Your Child - Other Topics / Re: Developing vocabulary for a four year old on: August 21, 2013, 09:46:38 AM
Soon enough she'll be smarter than me  LOL

I checked out reading bear and she seems really interested. Do you think both of those sites will be enough to teach her how to read? I've also looked into Teach a child to read in 100 easy lessons. I'll also browse the threads on brillkids.

She has certainly caught up dramatically in the past year, she was really bad before but back then I had even less exposure to English and French in an isolated Country town.
5  EARLY LEARNING / Teaching Your Child - Other Topics / Re: Developing vocabulary for a four year old on: August 21, 2013, 08:09:08 AM
Thank you for the link, it seems like a really good book. I also like the dictionary games they have included.

When it comes to books, I just read books in English from we give books and bedtime stories collection which I read to her in different languages as well as the versions in English.

Her vocabulary might seem very well behind compared to peers and because she also flaps her hands, realising now from excitement, I suspected maybe she has a speech delay or autism. I thought it could also be because she is hearing many different languages at home and all her peers are either monolingual or learning to be bilingual since she attends an international bilingual school, they have less confusion.

I took her to the doctor to see if they suspected autism but they said she is too smart to be autistic. I know in France they see things differently to America, or Australia, England etc when it comes to autism and I read that smart children can also have autism/learning disabilities.

This is what she knows already in English and French and in brackets, "mastered at age..."

Entire alphabet, in order or random order, upper and lower case (18 mo.s) and all their sounds (mastered 22 m)
1-10 (18 mos)
1-30 (24 mo)
First and last name (18 mo)
All her colours and shapes (18 m)
Speaks in full sentences, proper correct grammar and is understood 98-100% by familiar people and strangers from around 3 yrs of age
Crawling (6 mo)
Walking (14 mo)
She understands the hour hand on a clock, got it correct at first introduction (4 years)
Obsessed with books and learning (3 years, especially nowadays)
Can count various quantities to 15 (just under 4 years)
Fast learner since forever

So the doctors have ruled out any disability or delay because of her above knowledge.

When she talks she could say ''firstly we need to eat the spaghetti, then we need to eat dessert" using as an example, while her friend the same age could say while acting out a scene ''I'm putting you in prison and I'm locking you in with the key". Thisthen made me assume the problem there laid with me, I wasn't talking to her enough or using advanced vocabulary because my daughter wouldn't know what a prison is or be able to say the exact sentence herself to me or a friend, if that makes sense. I'm just struggling with my own English right now let alone knowing how to teach her without stumbling for words.

I'll look into finding the above book and other picture dictionaries and I will also keep my own language skills up-to-date to keep my brain fresh. I will focus more on teaching her how to read, I hope starfall can help there. I really appreciate your replies, such great ideas for me to use.
6  EARLY LEARNING / Teaching Your Child - Other Topics / Re: Developing vocabulary for a four year old on: August 20, 2013, 08:29:49 PM
Thanks for your replies.

What are some picture dictionaries you would recommend? I'm sure there's plenty of words she hasn't been introduced to yet that she should've already knew by now.

My English has been on vacation for a very long time, in fact, its become so bad I'm too embarrassed to admit it's my native language!

mom2bee, they're such great ideas, thank you so much!!!

I'm not sure if she is ready to read, she knows all of her letter and their sounds and can recognise some simple words. We have been using starfall a lot lately and I've noticed she is literally obsessed with books and wanting to be read to, do you think she seems ready?

7  EARLY LEARNING / Teaching Your Child - Other Topics / Developing vocabulary for a four year old on: August 04, 2013, 05:24:44 PM
I'm looking for some ways to develop and build stronger vocabulary (activities, good books etc) for my 4 year old. I know her level of English is not as great as it should be as I guess my English vocabulary has slowly been diminishing since I moved to France 5 years ago. I have to pause every time I need to speak in English as I always have words at the tip of my tongue and have to actually TRY to string a sentence together (which others INSIST I'm fibbing!).

English is my first language but I'm tired of stressing about how poor my language skills have become (don't know why!), as I don't use my language often, besides at home with my daughter who attends full days of kindy, so it's not 24/7. I've noticed her language skills is seriously below that of her fellow English speaking peers as their parent's have much stronger vocabularies they put to good use every day (being English language teachers, they use is all the time).

It's incredibly difficult to find English language books where I live in France so I basically have to read to her off we give books web site. What are other ways you could suggest I do to enhance her vocabulary? Any book recommendations? She absolutely LOVES being read to and pretending to read and sits up all night looking at her books and wanting as many stories as possible read to her, which is helping, along with nursery rhymes.

I always thought she must have speech delay but I think it's because I don't use a broad range of vocabulary with her. She's very smart otherwise. Teacher doesn't see a problem with her in either language.

What can I do besides from read and sing?
8  Parents' Lounge / General Parenting / My 3.8 year old and sleep on: March 09, 2013, 06:25:00 PM
My daughter is 3yrs.8 months old and ever since she was little, she never seems to need or want a lot of sleep. I keep reading that it's normal but sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with her that she's really this active.

On a school day she wakes up 6.30 am, starts at 8.30 and finishes 16.30 pm and she still doesn't seem tired most of those days. We come home have our routine and I put her to bed 20.00-20.30pm and I can still hear her awake at 23.00 pm as alert as ever.

On another occasion, we went to a kids play park for 4 hours straight of running around and left around 19.00 pm came home had the usual bed time schedule and she was still awake at 00.30 am though laying in bed playing with the stuffed animal she sleeps with.

There's the rare occasion that she'll sleep if she's tired. At the moment there is a compulsory nap at her school in the afternoons, sometimes she'll nap. I know if she hasn't slept when I pick her up and behaves like the devil but still refuses to sleep when we get home.

My sister suggested waking up at 6 am every day but I tried and she still does not care to sleep much. Is this normal? She's not physically hyperactive but active with a lot of verbal hyperactiveness, having pretend conversations with herself and/or her toys always wanting to draw or have stories read to her even at midnight.
9  Parents' Lounge / General Parenting / Re: Do you let your child choose the time to sleep at night? on: November 09, 2012, 10:25:58 AM
My daughter is nearly 3 and a half and ever since she turned 2, she doesn't seem to need much sleep. I did let her go to bed when ever she wanted when I say that I mean I would have her sit in bed and read but she just happened to fall asleep when she happened to just fall asleep, I wasn't strict about it. If she got out of bed and proclaimed she wasn't tired, I wasn't strict about it. She was really good when she was younger with her routines but something changed and she doesn't need much sleep and she is one big ball of energy so it's too much for me to handle. I have become more strict with her now but the problem is my husband lets her watch TV when he's in our bedroom watching TV on his laptop and it's like 21:30pm. I tell him all the time no TV after 18.30pm but doesn't listen. I say one thing and he does the opposite so I have to be strict now with both of them. My daughter generally falls asleep anytime between 21:30-23:00. I've never been happy with this but my husband seems to be the bigger problem. She generally wakes up anywhere between 06:30-10.15am. She struggled getting up every morning at 06.45 for Kindergarten because going to bed really late the night before but I'm working on my husband first before I can work on her. He also gives her lots and lots of sugar before bed. I have tried getting her tired. Just the other week she spent 4.5 hours running around a kids park just to put her to bed (19:00pm) when we got home, I was physically drained but as soon as we got home she was STILL running around and didn't end up going to bed until 23.00pm. I had put her to bed at 19:00pm. Don't let it get to this point. Be firm with a routine
10  Parents' Lounge / Coffee Corner - General Chat / Re: How do you make your learning materials? on: October 22, 2012, 01:00:52 PM
@ Kballent that's exactly the answer I was looking for. I know a lot of them are copyright and I'm not really interested in the cartoon type myself and a thought crossed my mind, what about actual images (photos of real animals, real objects etc) is that copyright protected so that is why I asked this question. My daughter loves real images of objects and I want to make sure that if I made something or copied something and tailored it, is that illegal? So say a lady made a maze with a dog as an image and I cropped that out but kept the maze, changed it a bit and added a different object that's illegal isn't it? I would love to know how to make my own mazes and other things. Unfortunately my work is volunteer that is why I would want to or wish to make a small profit in return. I really love the blogs mentioned above and love how they make their materials and I prefer to make my materials by scratch but can it really be all achieved by scratch without having to purchase images etc and risk the chance of breaking copyright laws?
11  Parents' Lounge / Coffee Corner - General Chat / How do you make your learning materials? on: October 19, 2012, 02:22:46 PM
I'm very interested to hear from any parents out there who make their own EL materials and how you make them.  I've finally got a job working with children and I'm needing to creating my own learning materials, mostly because it's much cheaper than having to buy but I don't know where to begin.

I'm quite interested in how the ladies from the following blogs 1+1+1=1 and confessions of a homeschooler create their wonderful early learning materials so wanting to know if you make any similar materials. Is it just learning how to master MS word and Photoshop or something else?

Also, do you know of any sites that allows you to use their clip art/images etc free of cost (that allows you to earn off the use of their images without having to pay membership or to buy their images?)

Copyright search seems to be a big issue for me on the net as most I've come across says I can't make any profits of their images. I also want to make a little bit of extra money on the side by being able to sell the materials I make, kind of like how they do it on TPT and the above listed blogs.

12  Parents' Lounge / Coffee Corner - General Chat / Re: My husband is STILL calling me lazy... on: September 28, 2012, 08:47:24 PM
I'm not sure if his 'sister' is the 'main cause' of this problem but it's a strong feeling. Every time they came over, our house was spotless, even just a few months ago when they last visited unannounced, it was spotless.

I told them OK I could easily make my house immaculate when I know I'm expecting visitors, but how can I be lazy when you've all seen for yourselves that my house is clean? I've always told my husband, I take a break when I need it because I don't have anyone to look after my child and she never naps.

How did I handle my sister in law? I told her I simply don't care what she has to say about me.

When he 'asks' me to clean, it's like he's ordering me what to do, he says it in a demanding way when I know what needs to be done, why does he feel the need to tell me. He is quite sexist too but that's how he has been raised. It really hurts that he has to behave like this in front of our child.

He doesn't do a lot around the house nor help much in regards to our daughters needs. He is married to his phone, that's his biggest priority, then his friends. He's still immature so that doesn't help either. I've left him for 5 weeks on his own to give him time to realise his attitude and behaviour and when we came back, it was like a completely different man. Suddenly, 2 years later, he's slipping back.

The things his sister has said about me to me, sounds exactly like all the things I say to him about the things that bother me about him. It's like he's deliberately switching the role as the 'bad guy' and putting all the blame on me instead, which truly hurts.

If we didn't have a child together, this problem would have been fixed a long time ago.
13  Parents' Lounge / Coffee Corner - General Chat / Re: My husband is STILL calling me lazy... on: September 27, 2012, 02:17:53 PM
I know it's a cultural thing that mothers don't stay at home with their children and the ones that do are considered lazy but I also think it could also possibly be him comparing me to his OCD control freak of a sister as he always complains about me to her and it's never true what he says about me, it's just the way he wants to see things.

She has a dog, and apparently her house stays clean and it's always looking immaculate - with a dog living inside. She really dislikes me (from the day she met me) and is always putting words in his mouth about how bad and lazy I am. He says things that sounds like it's something his sister has structured him to say to me because she is controlling with my husband.

I have explained that a dog is not a child and you cannot compare the lives of an animal to that of a child. I am not his sister and I'm not his personal slave. His parents house is dirty and even they call me lazy and dirty. His sister called me dirty. Their parents house has dog hair everywhere on the floors and furniture, unfolded clothes stashed everywhere, crumbs on the floors, that's not what my house looks like.

I used to fold all the clothes and place on the shelves except on all the shelves she had access to, I just threw them on the shelf as I was sick of folding them and her unfolding them many times a day. Now I fold all the clothes on all shelves because she's not in that stage anymore. It can take me weeks to find the time to fold though.

I wipe up stains off the floor with a sponge but I mop late at night when everybody is asleep. I clean dishes straight after use unless I have to rush out the door. My house is always clean. I don't get it. So folding the clothes can take time for me because I need to do that when daughter is sleeping and she goes to bed VERY LATE so by the time she sleeps I'm too tired and think 'meh tomorrow I'll do it'.

The floors are never going to be immaculate. My husband once came home and said 'look at all the toys everywhere!' - it was only 3 large stuffed toys. When he notices I've taken the trash out he gives me a 'wow! can't believe it!' look. I forgot to buy a plunger for the toilet recently and he said to me 'you do nothing all day, how can you forget!'

I do a major clean up once a week. If I did it every day, I'd be in hospital suffering from exhaustion. He is lazy but I never call him lazy, I just complain in my head so it find it really hurtful. We've talked about it, what I do and what he does and he still doesn't get it.
14  Parents' Lounge / Coffee Corner - General Chat / My husband is STILL calling me lazy... on: September 22, 2012, 04:19:39 PM
How many of you are SAHM who have a partner or husband who thinks you do nothing all day because being a SAHM is easy and they might come home to a house looking less than immaculate and they don't understand how this could be because being a mother is simple? This is my husband and funny thing is, he is the most laziest person I have ever met in my life and he calls me lazy!

I vacuum at least 3 times a day sometimes even 5!, I look after my daughter in all parenting aspects (usually on my own because that's the mothers job), I do laundry, mop, clean the house, keep the garden clean, I make 6 trips a day by tram, 4 days a week to send/pick up my daughter to/from school, I take her to the park, to doctors appointments or any other events, I walk around picking up all the grocery items off the shelves and putting them in the trolly whilst my husband stands at the end of the aisle with the trolly playing games on his phone rather than actually helping in any way, I do EL with my kid, I look after our rabbit, do absolutely everything, I cook fresh homemade meals, just the other day I spent 3 consecutive hours preparing and cooking lunch and dinner from 9.30am and apparently I'm still lazy!

How do you handle a man like that? It's also a cultural thing as well as a typical stereotype but I'm in my late 20's and have found a few grey hairs from stress! I'm over-working it but if I don't do things, they'll just pile up and never get done. Husband doesn't help, just complain.

EDIT: I should also note that he frequently complains our house is messy because toys are everywhere. I put them away and my 3 year old just throws them out everywhere. I fold clothes, she throws them everywhere. I would have to be cleaning 24/7 to have an immaculate house when I have a kid! I mop the floor, 10 mins later there's stains everywhere and husband complains. Complains, complains, complains....
15  Parents' Lounge / General Parenting / Re: Kids & pets? on: September 12, 2012, 08:33:58 AM
cdcvalenti I ended up buying her a rabbit for her birthday last May. Having a rabbit hasn't been a lot of work. He is toilet trained, very friendly, nails regularly cut, he loves going for walks on his leash, he runs around inside but he malts like there is no tomorrow. Oh and the little bugger chews our furniture! We have no regrets in buying the rabbit, the most expensive thing is his vaccinations. 69 euro for a rabbit!!!!!!!! The rabbit only cost 9 euro  ohmy
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