about to give up teaching my son to read!!!help

[Xica]

me too!

[Autumn]

But of course!    I agree too!

[Twinergy]

liz79,
Here is a quote from the native reading link I sent you that pretty much sums up my experience teaching my daughter to read.  “… with both of my children, when they were each ready, learning to read had been almost effortless. My children learned to read just as they had learned to crawl, or learned to walk, or, especially, just as they learned to talk. They learned easily and almost miraculously. I can’t really say that I taught them to read, they essentially learned it on their own, at the different ages where they were each individually ready.  But both Otto and Freya learned to read at what most people consider an extraordinarily early age. And I don’t think it is a coincidence that my early readers found reading relatively effortless, while many older children find it a struggle. Instead, I believe the problem is that most children learn to read too late. In fact, I believe that: The optimal time to learn to read is when a child is one to three years old, because this is the time when their brains naturally do the most closely-related task: learning to under-stand speech and to talk themselves.”  I also encourage you to read the rest of the story at that link. 

Children are naturally curious and go through phases where they are fascinated with one thing then another.   I think this is where they really learn.  My daughter happened to pick reading really young (my son is working on problem solving which is just as important as reading.)  I think the best way to spark this curiosity in reading is to make it fun, not work.  This is what I was really trying to say in my original post, but didn’t have time and posted it unfinished.  So if you just get some great, fun books and read to your DD, it’s not giving up.

[akalori]

Liz79,

I worry that if I go back to work that I will give up teaching my daughter.  So I really feel for you.  Anyway, I hope you find a way to continue the lessons because I can tell early education means alot to you. 

I think flash cards are very time consuming. 

Like others, I agree that if you can afford it, Little Reader is a great investment.  I love it. 

However there are also alot of free powerpoint slideshows with the same material as the Little Reader downloads.  The colorful pictures make them much more interesting than plain flashcards.  And they are just easier than flashcards.  Just place your son on your lap for a snuggle and a slideshow.  It would take alot less time.  You could even make it part of his bedtime routine.  The set up and execution of each lesson would take under 10 minutes.  Download the lesson in minutes, load it up (another few minutes), and run it with you son on your lap (under 5 minutes).  You could follow your same Doman routine i.e. play each slideshow 15 times, then choose a new one.  I bet he would love the animal slideshows.

Anyway I hope you find a way to continue your lessons.

Good Luck, Lori

[Autumn]

Hi Liz79,

Hope you and your family are feeling better.
And if you need any help from us just ask.
Like I said in my first post...We are all on your side!!!

Big Hugs,
Autumn

[DadDude]

Liz, when my boy was between 12 and 18 months or so, he went through a period where he wasn't so interested in reading.  If the problem is that the kid isn't motivated to learn in the way you're trying to teach...then don't try to teach that way!  Try something else!

But between 18 and 24 months, my boy learned his ABCs, started spelling words with refrigerator magnets, and I discovered Titzer and Doman.  We first started showing him "Your Baby Can Read" and at the same time my flashcards (http://www.mediafire.com/FleschCards).  Within a few months he was already reading whole simple sentences in the simplest books.  My point is that my little boy didn't actually start reading until he was a couple months older than yours is now.  So to me, when you say you want to give up, I say, "Give up before one of the prime times to start?"

If the problem is that you personally don't have time to prepare materials or teach your son, I can relate.  I'm very busy (which is why I've taken a break from this website for many months) and haven't been able to do as much for my son's education as I have done in the past.  But remember that there are lots of good learning materials already made out there, ready for you to use.  The Titzer videos are great, for instance.  If you feel like you have to carefully handcraft cards exactly as Doman specified, well...ya don't.  There's nothing magical, much less scientifically proven, about Doman's specific methods.  You can feel free to try variations...I did.  So did many other people.  Look for my powerpoint presentations, for instance, free on this website to download.

I find that when I get to a "stuck" place in life, it helps to re-examine my assumptions and change or give up one of the assumptions.  If you were finding you lacked time just because you spent too many hours making Doman-style cards, because you believed what you read about the terrible effects of screen time on young children, maybe it's time to re-examine your views on the sensible use of screen time.  Get YBCR and start using Little Reader or free powerpoint presentations.

But frankly, if you have only a small amount of time for "educational" type activities with your boy, I would say the top priority is reading.  It's more important than flash cards, hands down--my opinion.

Also, if your mother is going to watch the kid, have you asked her to do these activities with him?  If not it can't hurt to ask, and if she resists you can tell her how important it is to her.  Show her some YouTube videos of "success stories" and you may motivate her.

[liz79]

hi everybody, i was surprised that so many of you gave respond to my post....and im extremely sorry for unable to reply to you all....i dont have internet connection at home and at office i have to take turn to use the computer(internet)...
as some of u suggested to buy LM and LR-it looks like a good suggestion but the price is Lifetime Plan Value Bundle is $ USD 720.00 right?that is my salary in my country....i dont think i can afford to buy LR n LM.
i regret for not knowing this product when i was pregnant, if not i would have saved some money to buy LR
by now if i start to save i will take me one year i guess...sigh....

One more thing, life comes in the way sometimes, so don't stress about it. I wanted to do this everyday religiously, but there are things that happen in life that you need to take care off. So I try to be consistented, but if one day I only have time to do the first part of the course, I don't kill mylsef over it, I just do the other half the next day. We had to take a break from math flash cards for two weeks (becuase my daughter wasn;t into it) it was ok, was we started again she was totally into it.

im thankful to joha for these words...

and i think i will try to follow Twinergy's advice on getting books with large font which is the most enjoyable and easiest way to teach kids...
linzy, i son doesn't like to be disturbed when he's going for toilet, i tried to show him flash card during that time, but it's like he cant concentrate on his toilet business u know, i leave these method, same goes when he's eating or bathing, it;s like he doesn't wan to be disturbed and like to enjoy the moment i think
Xica, i've seen monkiesee's free labels, will try to to implement
floong, i put my son on the baby court and showed to him the card in a flash....but nowadays he cries when i put him in the baby court....indication of not interested in the cards i think...
momtomany, i did set a very small goal indeed as i know i would not b able to show 3 set per day...but even that 1 set is disappointing with so many obstacles...
JenniferJoy, check your inbox
cp, i was so excited when i saw your post, definitely i will search for the cd in popular, mph or jucso during this weekend, u really enlighten my world by giving me a hint about the cd....will sure to get one....
Autumn, izit okay to give the marker to toddler to scribble on the dry erase board...?i'm scared the smell will make him sick, i myself allergic to the smell of the marker pen...
Tiger LIly, is great to read your post....usually when v go for walking and in the car, i will point out to him see, that's cow, that's car, that's boy and so on....but that happen only one or twice a month...not many time....
i feel so regret for going to work after my son is born actually, but if i quit my husband wont be able to mange everything by himself ...that's for sure....
DadDude, thank u for the link....

thank u everybody for your advice, i will try my best to overcome this stress...it's no joke being a good mom right...
needs a strong will power....

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