Baby sleeping place

[khatty]

Let me preface this entire discussion by saying that my dd doesn't sleep much, no matter where or with whom she is sleeping.  The best I can figure it she sleeps about 6 hours a night and maybe (if I'm lucky) takes an hour nap during the day.  She didn't sleep much when she was first born, and it has only gotten steadily worse.  She is a mostly happy well adjusted well fed well stimulated kid that needs less than 7 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period.

We co-slept with my dd until she was a year old.  I had a crib, but she wouldn't fall asleep or stay asleep in the crib, and I just gave up fighting it.  She was much happier in between Mom and Dad.  At about 11 months she started to move around in her sleep a lot.  I decided to put a double(full) mattress on the floor in her own room.  She slept on it the first night for usual 3 hours before she woke up to bf.  Then she feel asleep again for 3 hours.  I really like the mattress on the floor.  It gives me a nice space to lie down and breastfeed her to sleep, and then I can get up and go back to my own bed.  The mattress is low enough that she can get on and off it without assistance.  She sleeps as well as she has ever slept on the mattress, much much better than her crib.

A couple of the drawbacks are that she won't cry it out, if she doesn't want to sleep, she will just crawl off the bed and play or come find me.  Another draw back is that her room doesn't look very well put together with a mattress on the floor, but I figure better her happy than a good looking baby room.

fruityfruit8 - I am feeling your upset right now, and I can really really sympathize.  As my dd needs even less sleep than me, I never never get anytime to myself.  I don't even get time to do the basic chores or shower.  Days just run into nights and I feel exhausted 24 hours a day.  I wish I had some magic cure for you!  Parenting is tough for me and I need to constantly remind myself that this will only last for a short time and it is important to respond to my dd needs.  The one trick I have is that read while I am breastfeeing her and then at last I am stimulating my brain for a few minutes a day.

[nhockaday]

6 months. Like I said, the earlier the better. He cried for 3 nights, decreasing the length or crying every night. Yes, it is hard to hear your baby cry, but they are not going to remember it and be traumatized later. They will be fine. And they will not think their bed is a bad, unhappy place. After a few nights they get into a routine and they start to go to sleep without a peep. I am very happy that I stuck to it and got him to sleep in his own bed. You just have to be consistent and deal with hearing your baby cry. It is hurting you more than him.

I will never let any other children sleep with me. As much as I loved it, I don't want to have to go through the transition again. My next babies will sleep in their own bed from day one, and they will get used to it.

[PY]

I totally agreed with Nhochaday, My baby when she was 6 months old ,she start sleeping in her crib, the first 3 days was hard, she will cry for 20 minutes straight and the second night for 10 an the thrird night for 5 minutes, the fourth night she won't cry at all, she totally got used to it.
Besides my baby since she was born she will sleep 12 hours straight without waking up,the first 3 months she  just will wake up twice at night for breastmilk and go back right after milk to sleep...UNTIL now she is 14 months old, and I don't know what is waking up at nights because she doesn't sleep. I guess is the way you educate them how they should sleep.
 she used to go sleep at 9pm o'clock!!(that is very important,be consistant on timing) now that she is more active she is awake until 10pm and gets up earlier, she used to get up  9am every morning and now she gets up at 7am.

I have a friend who used to sleep with her baby since she was born and now the baby is 4 years old and she still sleeps whith her, mom has moved to her daughter's bedroom, because her girl can't sleep without her.

[Joha]

Well we are a living case that it works! My daughter has never slept with us. The first two months we did have her next to us in a plack and play and after two months we moved her to her room. She didn't cry and slept great. She has been sleeping through the night since she was 6 weeks old. We also didn't get her use to going to bed when she is already asleep. She gets her bath everyday, gets a massage, we put her in her pj's, she eats and it is time to go to bed. It doesn't matter if she is awake or not. She knows is time to go to bed. Most of the time when she is awake, she just hangs out for 10 minutes and falls to sleep by herself. She has cried a couple of times, but we don't pick her up and she falls to sleep after 10 minutes or so. Last time, it was harder because she started saying "mamamama" while she was fuzzing. I wanted to go up so bad!!!  But I didn't do it and she felt to sleep after a couple of minutes. I think being consistant is the secret. They are babies and they don't know. We give her pleny of love during the day, so she knows we love her and we are there for her!

By the way, once in a while in the morning she will take a nap with us, but is just a nap and is not very often.

[AprylP]

our baby slept in a pack n play in our room for a couple months and then we moved him into my large walk-in closet in a porta-crib (it's right next to our bedroom, so I could always hear him. He's 2 now and finally about to move into his own room with a twin bed. I don't think he's minded staying in the closet, but it sure makes me feel better to have him in a real room now.

[Joanna07]

We sleep with our son and wouldn't change for anything, I believe that's how Mother Nature intended it to be.
Soon we are planning to buy a bed for him and put it in our bedroom, after few months of him sleeping there we are planning to move him to his own room. I think this should be slow and easy transition.

[Jillpea]

Oh Khatty, I really feel for you. And all mums with non-sleepy babies. I too have an active toddler who for the first 8 months was a horrid sleeper. He was in a bassinette next to my bed and out of sleep deprived desperation I ended up breastfeeding him to sleep whenever he wanted. This created weeks of waking every hour on the hour for 10 hours each night. I went nuts (hubby didn't wake everytime). With support and professional help he sleeps about 9-10 hours each night. The only real periodic problem is a night of teething.

What really helped us was to hand him over to my mother for two nights when he was about six months old, for him to sleep overnight at her house in his portacot. He was familiar with it from naps now and then at her house. It took alot for us to let him sleep away from us, but the exhustion had taken over. You can't be there 100% for your child if your not even close to 100% yourself. It gave us a good chance to recharge and start a better system with him.

[noorhidayah]

hello there,

my baby at early stage was sleeping with me and my husband until she was 8 months old. This is because I can BF her easily without the need to wake up from the bed. But when I realised that she need to be sleep in her own bed, we change a little bit of the bedroom layout by placing her cot next to our bed (we moved one of the rail so that it like the cot was attached to our bed). Since she constantly still BF, I just need to move a lil bit to her when she wants to BF.

But the problem is that, when the morning comes, she ended up in my arm or next to me...

This time, me and my husband think we need to separate the baby from our bed completely....but we stilll trying for that since everytime we try to separate the baby from us..she started to cried..   still trying to figure how to do this correctly...help needed!!

I agreed that under 6 months old the bab need to be with her/his mum since this make the bonding more easily and after these onths I think the baby can manage him/herself if we put her/im on his/her own bed. I am not in favour forthe child to sleep with the mum and dad until older since the parent need space for themselves and for the child also he needed some space for her/his own activities.

[tina]

My baby slept on her own crib starting day 1 and I have put a mattress in her room.  When I breastfed her, I just put her to the mattress and fed her, and after feeding, I would put her down to her own crib.  I read the same book as cybermommy.

And now my baby is 28-month and she really enjoys sleeping on her own.  When she was younger, she may nap with me, and not anymore!

[sheeberi]

My babies sleep with me until now, or should I say, I still sleep with my babies 'coz I sleep with them on their room. I really don't know how to end this... I want to do the right thing but I never really wanted to.

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