If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?

[Sapna1322]

At present i have only 1 son.I want another kid but my hubby is saying strictly 'no'.He doesnt want anymore kids because of physical tireness and sleepless nites.We stay in USA and we dont have any helping hand if we have another kid.If we go through this doman method,shichida method and all it requires lots of hard work and if i will have another kid than offcourse i will follow all this eucation method an breastfeeding and all but again it's lots of hard work and my hubby is not ready for it at all.

Sapna

[patreiche]

I think it is more of an economic issue. Unless you have a lot of money, I do not think most people can afford three kids in today's world. But if you are tired and not having fun now, why would you want to add to your stress level? Life should be fun for you and your children. I agree with your husband.

[paolita]

As it's an economic issue and a couple decision families are being decreased I have two cousins that against all of this modernity have 6 kids each and they're really happy families I would like to have more children but my husband ants only one more maybe in the future we can decide for the third is a good number. Think about it. Believe in Family and work for it.

[THen]

I have 5 kids.  Most were two years apart, but after the 4th it took both my self and my husband a while (5 years) to want to have another child.  I think having #3-5 were less of an ajustment than having #2.  By then, you are sort of used to having babies and know how to handle them. 

But they are one more person that wants your attention.  Now that the older ones are older (12-6), they play so well together and help me a lot.  It is getting to the point where it is helpful to have them, and life is a little easier because they are there.  I also love all the interpersonal relationships.  Each child is loved by so many in the family.  They also know what it is liked to be sinned against and have learned how to deal with it.  I think that is a benefit for having more than one child. 

However, I do not think it is right for everyone.  Especially if your husband is against it.  (If you were a Christian, I would say to pray and ask God to help direct you and to help your husband want more children - if that is what you are wanting.  Then let Him do the convincing.)  I have health issues and having more children might not be wise at this point.  And I was really tired and had to rely a lot on my husband and older children during the last preganacy (I'm getting old  .  My husband knew it would be that way, but came to the point where he was willing to pay the price to have another bundle of joy around. 

Yes, it is a personal choice, there are costs involved, but there are also blessing.  Have another child, don't have another child and wait to have another child can all be good answers.  I've come to all of those conclusions at different times of my life.

[texaslady22]

I've never, ever heard of someone who regretted having one of their children.

Look at your wonderful little guy...when he's giggling and running around, or when he stuffs a grape up his nose, or when he says something wonderful or unusual. Children are wonderful! There's just no getting around it for me--children are a gift from God.

I just absolutely wouldn't let the idea of Doman and Schiada stop me from having another child. Glenn Doman says if you can't do it joyfully, don't do it at all. In a way, you're saying something like "It's too much work to do all this teaching, and I don't want to have a "normal" child..." Well, what's the harm with that?

Don't let this consume you. You have to feed your child. You have to love your child. But lots and lots of brilliant individuals (most of them in history, in fact) have become brilliant with only that--food and love. Everything you do, all the cards, all the books...they're just "extra." They're not absolutely essential, even for greatness. They're just icing on a super-delicious cake 

[2010BEBES]

After my second son was born we thought we were done having kids and that two was enough. But I did kind of have that nagging feeling that I wanted more. But, we decided that my husband would get a vasectomy when my youngest was only a few months old and just move on with raising our boys.
...I knew again we wanted a fourth child but this time we wern't so lucky getting pregnant right away. We tried for over a year, even doing several fertility treatments with no success. Since we knew we wanted to add to our family we decided on adoption. We had all the paper work filled out and ready to turn in when I found out I was in fact pregnant.

I know many cases where after adopting they found she is pregnant. Maybe because after taking that decision, you take the stress ou of it and then you get pregnant.

[tatianna]

i would love to have another one but i think we will wait till my baby is 3 or 4
after that we will adopt

[MySunshine]

We are in fact trying for another one right now.
I m checking myself constantly with the ovulation sticks, but so far there is no luck.

I wonder if it has to do with me still breastfeeding my son because I have not get my period back regularly. Does any one have any advice or any experiences??

I think I will be good with 2 kids but my husband is actually the one pushing for more babies. so we will see...

[PY]

I think it is more of an economic issue. Unless you have a lot of money, I do not think most people can afford three kids in today's world. But if you are tired and not having fun now, why would you want to add to your stress level? Life should be fun for you and your children. I agree with your husband.

I totally agree with you!!
If I will be rich or wealthy I will love to have more than three children. I have only one for now, We will love to have one more child.....and We actually will love to have more children 4- 6 I don't know, but it is difficult to give them attention, good vacations,healthy food, good quality of live, we think in their future and we are looking to send them to nice schools, nice  universities...etc. But the sad part is all that COSTS MONEY!!! I can't bring  more kids to this world to suffer. I prefer quality of live instead of quantity...but like I say if I were rich I will love to have lots more.

[McDume]

The amazing thing about moms (and dads) is that just when you think you can't take anymore pressure, the thought pops in your mind... I want another baby.

It always works out. You cannot make a bad decision. If you have a 3rd, everything else in your life will adjust to accomodate. You have more love in your heart than you think is possible. And love makes everything possible.

[NadiaD]

We would definetely love 2 more!
Me and my hubby on the same page
But I agree with the thing was said here already: It is a family decision, It is a personal decision.
But to tell you the truth I never heard anybody who has 2 or more children to say "Oh, I wish we had only 1",
It is always other way around: as soon as we get the taste of it we want more
I see it is an old thread, so I hope you're pregnant already

[tlyoung]

I had the only child and thought I was done.  I had to work and felt guilty putting one baby in day care.  Well 20 years later we are expecting a healthy baby boy and will be the stay at home mom I wanted to be the first time around.  I did regret not having another child at times but our daughter turned out happy and well adjusted.  Enjoy the one you have and give yourself and your hubby more time.  OK don't wait as long as we did!   Find a person to trade baby sitting time with and enjoy your marriage.  It takes work to keep a family together and happy.

[joni2009]

I have 2 children for now.I would like to have one more, because of the smiles and joy that you recieve when you take care of them.I am not sure that I can give enough attention to 3 children.Right  now my 2 children want  more of my attention for every one of them personally.It is very difficult for me to do this.So I think that it is better to have 2 and take  care of them with joy then have 3 and to be stressed or unsure.But everything is different for every person, so you have to do what you feel  is better for you.

[2010BEBES]

I have 2 children for now.I would like to have one more, ...

joni,
I consider an excellent situation (if one can make it work) to have your first 2 kids with 24 month between them (considering pregnancy time). After that maybe it is better to wait 3 or 4 years more and start again.

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