UPDATE:
OK, so Ethan is now 13 months old and since we visited family out of state he is now taking 2 naps. First one at 9:30-10:00 and the second at 1:30-3:00 (if lucky). Totall improvement from before. I think my family is wearing him out, only trouble now is he is waking up almost evernight and I've started feeding him at night again.
It seems as if one leap forward is one leap back for us. I think he has shifted his sleep towards the day and is affecting it at night. Sleeping for him has become something far too complicated for me to handle!
Since I've seen Abraham/Hicks/Louis Hay dvd's, I've been trying to attract better "thoughts/energy" my way and picture how good it is when Ethan is sleeping as oppose to when he is fussy/tired/crabby.
In a few months, I'd like to see what happens when I shift over to one nap because I've tried plenty of times and he still performs better with two naps vs one.
thanks again for everyones previous input