explaining this to others!

[Maddy]

We have a new article on BrillBaby designed for anyone having difficulty explaining to others why they are teaching their baby/child to read. It's called the Top 8 Myths of Early Reading and you can find it here...

http://www.brillbaby.com/teach-baby/top-myths-early-reading.php

You might also be interested in the pages on BB dedicated to the scientific research into early reading - go to the Promise of Early Reading and Early Reading Can Prevent Dyslexia (part of the Why Teach Reading Early? article)...

http://www.brillbaby.com/teach-baby/why-teach-reading-early/early-reading-promise.php

http://www.brillbaby.com/teach-baby/why-teach-reading-early/Page-7.php

I'm sure not many critics would be aware that the more severe form of dyslexia (the one that doesn't get better as you grow up) is actually caused by environmental not genetic factors.

Neither are many people aware that children who learn to read at three or four remain ahead of their peers who learned to read at a later age for as much as eight years!

So you can try the softly, softly tack first ("She enjoys it," "It's a game we play") - and if that doesn't work, him 'em with the science!

Maddy

[lekeebaugh]

I have learned to not share what I am teaching my children not because they don't believe me but because then later they start testing my children.  I have to tell them to not test my children but they still do it behind my back.  I wish I had not told anyone that I was doing the doman method because of the testing issue.  Just something to watch out for.

[purplefungi]

It is hard to be involved with something so important yet not be able to tell people about it. I love this website because there are moms out there just like me. I find it amazing that there are so many people on board with this kind of program because in real life, I haven't found a single person beside my husband.

I have chosen to mainly blog about my experience because I know that my coworkers and some family members will not agree with me. They would probably go as far as to say that I am damaging my child and that it is some kind of child abuse. Little do they know that my child smiles and begs for more words, is learning new things every day way beyond what would be expected of a two-year-old, and spends more time with his full-time student and working mother than probably most children.

I have started LR with my three-month-old while doing the presentations with my toddler. Derek loves them! He tries to talk to the screen and makes more movements. Because of this, I know that he is finding enjoyment in participating with his older brother. Who could ask for anything more?

This discussion was recently brought up on the December birth board on www.pregnancy.org
People are totally against any type of early learning. It is sad to see.

http://www.pregnancy.org/bulletinboards/showthread.php?t=492620

[patience]

It is sad to hear that people are so against early education, but I have been blessed to have very supportive people in my life who even if they don't fully understand it, they respect what I do. I have shared what I am doing with a few family members and on one occasion a stranger and that was because my 1 year old read the word yellow out of a book I showed him and she overheard and asked if he said what she think he said:) Even though I have received nothing, but positive responses from other, I would still continue teaching my son regardless.....my son LOVES it and so do I.

Happy Teaching Everyone
Keep doin what you're doin!!

[JCS]

When my first daughter was 1 i came accross Doman's work and hoped to get into a program with her and have her reading by 2- I shared this with some people who were not supportive and sadly let the notion go- couldn't shake it and have finally begun with her at 4 years old- if you're new at this be careful who you tell- even people I thought would be so encouraging were skeptical- it was such a downer for me- I've become more protective of our teaching time and not really explaining it unless someone asks and i usually say it's an early learning program and leave it at that.  they think I'm doing baby einstein or something !  I'm not solidly into it yet so I'm not comfortable defending it yet. just my 2 cents

[Vinod]

Few years ago, I used to give surprising looks when someone used to tell me that they have started teaching maths or computers or other development programs to a very small child, since I never came across such things. Neither did my other family members.

But subsequently I found, learnt and started many development programs for our children, though many didnt approve or laughed at the back.

But I dont blame them, because at some point of time, I too did the same. Its the circle / group to which you belong to, that can guide you to the right things.

[omimama]

I've faced the same negative feedback from others about teaching my 4 month old to read. Its a shame that you end up keeping something so exciting to yourself. My husband and I have also been using EC since she was 6 weeks and don't feel comfortable telling anyone about it.
But its ok, as long as we know she's happy and were not forcing her to do anything. I'm glad I found this forum for support and info. Happy reading to all.

[paprazzimama]

I don't plan on telling many people either.  I am really glad to have found this site, too!  I haven't met anyone else in person who is doing this, and when I tell people that Bri is already reading, they look at em like I'm a crazy mom. Then they change the subject.  So, I don't plan on bringing it up.  It's kind of sad, though, because it should be something that is common place, not abnormal.  If only more people knew about the possiblities when they start to help develop an early love of reading, math, etc.!

[Jeimy64]

I taught my daughter to read using YBCR, Doman, starfall, and lots and lots of books.  She's now 34 months, and I'm no longer actively teaching her because she can pretty much decode almost anything.  Materials designed to "teach reading" are too easy at this point -- We just read lots and lots of books. 

When we were in the teaching phase, I mostly kept it under my hat because I read what other people said on other discussion sites, and I knew it was something controversial and I didn't want people testing her.  I made the mistake of telling my mom -- who used every opportunity to "test" her and show her off -- this really, really bothered me. 

So now I have a not-yet-3-year-old who can read -- and it's really really cool.  Its a source of great joy for our daughter and our family...but I still don't like to mention it.  Sometimes,  people do notice, and we've told a few close friends.  It seems to freak people out... Either they're jealous or they think my daughter is a freak... or that we're too  "pushy"... I don't know; I get bad vibes from some people.  I'm not sure if I should try to explain how or why I taught her, or if I should say, "she just picked it up." and change the subject.  I don't want people to get hung up about it.  Her reading is just ONE part of her; there are many other things that make her beautiful, and unique.   I'm glad I found this forum to meet other people who have very young children who enjoy the ability of reading. 

[purplefungi]

I liked reding your story, Jeimy34!

[Malathi]

He guys,

Even my own parents & brother are against it but I just over rule them & I am introducing my 3 1/2 months kid for an early learning schedule slowly.

I am pretty confident once my girl stays ahead of all the childrens her age everyone would stop there criticism and join.

Anybody out there don't just stop because others feel that we are over burdening a child. Stop only when the kid gets bored I am pretty sure kids in the early stage would be interested & intrigued by new things.

Malathi

[iLusion]

I have made this mistake too. One of my friend is a school teacher and has a daughter same age as my son. After I joined this forum couple months back I was so amazed...there were so many things that could be done. I told her about this forum and early education options. She listened to the whole thing quietly and said so what's next for your son? phd before 5?   

From then onwards, we always kept it under the hat

[AprylP]

The problem I've had with telling others about what I'm trying to do is that then they expect Joel to "perform" for them, which is not really the point. He doesn't usually like to do things "on demand", so it can be frustrating. I just say "sorry, we're not supposed to test him."

[Joha]

I feel very lucky because my husband supports me 150%  which is the most important person to have on your side when you start this journey. My mom is totally on my side too after she saw it only takes a few minutes here, a few minutes there. At work, my good friend loves the idea and she gets excited with everything I tell her, my boss just laughs at me and pretty much thinks I'm crazy  My otehr fiend at work only knows about the crawling track that I want to build, he thinks is not neccesary, but anyways is going to help me to build it. One of my best friends got so excited that is doing some ppt presentatiosn with her son and is convincing her husband to get YBCR. My other good friend doesn't have kids, but she thinks is great and will probably do it once she has kids. Now, we have a couple that is very close to us, our babies are only one day apart and that is a different history... they just came over for dinner and saw all the labels we have around the house and just didn't say anything, then he saw on my night table the book "How to teach your baby how to read" (in Spanish), got curious, wanted me to translate the title for him, once I did, just silence... I'm not sure who felt more unconfortable.

Anyways, we decided not to tell most people, because that, it just gets unconfortable and let's be honest, you don't want anybody criticizing your parenting decisions . We made the decision and nobody is going to make us change our minds. We kind of test people to see if it is a conversation topic they may be interested on.

I'm kind of curious because two of my aunts and my uncle are coming for two weeks, so there is not going to be a way to hide it. I would have two stop what I'm doing and I'm not willing to waist my baby's time. So we'll see...

[purplefungi]

Joha, I'm glad that your husband is so supportive. That really does make a huge difference!

I would have been like buddy, learn how to read Spanish! Just joking. It gets really frustrating when people don't understand or flat out disagree with you.

This entire experience thus far has kind of been like what I experienced with pumping. People (even the nurses who I work with who you would think would be 100 % for breastfeeding) were against the idea of exclusively pumping. My first born wouldn't/refused to breastfeed so this was my only option if I wanted to give him my milk still. Everyone pretty much thought that I was nuts when I told them after they would ask questions like "How's breastfeeding going? What kind of formula does he use? blah, blah, blah...." It got so bad that I would just almost lie to people and say, "Yeah, I bottle feed." This was half true, but there was sure a lot of preparation that went into making that bottle of milk that no one knew about. Oh well, people aren't really interested in doing what is best for their children if it takes TOO much time or effort.

I love this website because so many parents feel the same way about spending the best time that is possible with their little ones!

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