explaining this to others!

[kmum]

jtg - my lo does have glasses - little red ones in fact! That's why I was curious.  I'm also too technically inept to upload a photo to show you but dd sure looks cute in them.  Most of my family needs glasses, but she is the youngest.

[rixu]

it is really so. some of  my friend tells that I'm wasting time. others ask me whether my child is brine injured???????
 
most people ask about the dot cards. they says that how a little baby can understand maths using dots. some ask me to use different colors  and make it colorful while others ask me to use different pictures such as one cat, two ducks. some people ask to wait until she can talk.

they never understand the importance of teaching and dose not teach their baby 

[kmum]

I think your friends are probably just not aware of these methods.  There are quite a few examples of this method working if you look around on this site.  I must admit that I had never heard of teaching babies this much  a few years ago & thought it was a little hard to believe at first.

[Tanikit]

I haven't tried explaining this to anyone. My own parents know I am teaching my daughter but they tuaght us as kids themselves so understand the concepts. Other than that I am telling no one - its just easier that way.

I think part of the reason I am not telling anyone is that I cannot see any results myself yet because I am not testing and my daughter isn't showing me she knows anything and another part is that my parents themselves got into a lot of trouble when they said things about teaching my sister when she was a baby - the reactions they received from teachers and school psychologists were extremely negative and I do not want that. My sister is also teaching her daughter a lot of things and already feels that the playgroup she is in is unable to cater to her child and may be treating her child unfairly because they may feel she is being precocious.

[KL]

The key thing to emphasize is that our children are having fun when learning.

Also tell them it's a complete myth that:

- babies cannot learn skills such as reading (tons of evidence to show the contrary)

- babies don't like to learn and have to be forced (use your own child as an example)

For more discussion on this, see:

http://www.brillbaby.com/teach-baby/why-teach-reading-early.php

http://www.brillbaby.com/early-learning/for-against-early-learning.php

[winth]

Don't waste time trying to explain. No one will be convinced.
I taught my older boy to read only when he's about 1 year old (didn't know of early reading back then). We spend nights reading about 4 books for a start and it went on for about 3-4 months. I wasn't too convinced that he was able to understand a single word that I read about but I just continued. He would sit on my lap and patiently waited for me to read to him.

One fine morning, I opened my eyes and was just laying in bed. What caught my eye was my boy was actually sitting very still and was flipping the pages of the story books that I've read with him. He was flipping page-by-page and running down each word though he wasn't making any noise as he couldn't really speak then. I was like
And I never looked back, we quickly increased the amount of books to 8, then 12 and 16 every night. He could already pronounce words like 18 months.

I usually tell my hubby that I'm doing my 'training' secretly and the results will show when they attend school. Hehe.

[DomanMom]

I usually tell my hubby that I'm doing my 'training' secretly and the results will show when they attend school. Hehe.

Haha that's how I feel most of the time! I think to myself, "Sure everyone thinks I'm crazy now but just wait till he gets older. No one will be criticizing us then!"

[tina]

I totally understand how all other moms feel!  I live with my in-laws and my mother-in-law always criticized what I did, especially when I showed my baby (at that time she was only 8 month) flash cards!  She said "how come you just make her learn at this young age????"  I did not try to explain as she just didn't understand and won't understand anyways!!

[Seema]

Hi

I have gone through this experience many times, but u know, they realised their mistake, and rather started encouraging their kids at early stage.

Just  call them and make your child sit in front of Brillkids, and the movement your kid will start tell every thing he learnt in billkids, i they will appeciate your efforts.


Seema........

[NBailey]

Hi,
I tend not to tell others about the learning activities that I do with my son during the day. I wish this was not the case as it would be nice to share experiences, but people can really be very judgemental. Ethan is my first child (5 months old) and I have learned very quickly that absolutely everyone has an opinion about how you should be raising your child. It has gotten to the stage where I now find myself hiding the math dot cards if we are going to have visitors!

My mother in law did happen to see the cards one day and asked me about them so I told her a bit about the program. She did not tell me I was doing anything wrong, but she did look at me like I was crazy and said that I should be careful as some parents can take educating their child too far.  My family has also said that I am being mean for not letting Ethan watch television like "The Wiggles" as he will missing out. I really don't think that young babies get together and discuss what they saw on TV the day before. I have also had family members say that if Ethan is too intelligent by the time he attends school he may become an outcast. I find this kind of comment disturbing. Do they mean that we should make sure our kids are dumber just so they can make friends at school?  If you teach your child to have good values, not brag about their abilities and help them to develop emotional intelligence, they should not have any such problems.
 
Now if someone makes a comment, I just tell them that every time I am teaching Ethan something it is done in a fun way. I do not try to push anything onto him if he is tired or irratable.  It is no different than playing a game with a toy (which seems to be socially accepted). He loves all the activities that we do together. Kids love to learn and would much rather the love and attention of a parent (regardless of what is shown- book, toy, flashcards, little reader, the trees outside...) than just being sat in front of a television set. 
I just want to give Ethan every opportunity to reach his full potential.

[nhockaday]

It sounds like you are having many of the same problems as the rest of us. Just know that you are doing wonderful things for your son, and he will greatly benefit from them. We are all here to support you!

[winth]

The only people who knows about my 'secret training' other than my hubby, and my parents.

It's good that they didn't laugh at this idea like my MIL did. When I first told her that I'm sending my boy (1.5 year then) to brain-enrichment program, she was like , 'why waste the $$?', 'how do you know that the baby's learning?', 'babies will not remember what they learn'.

My MIL is a 15-year experience nanny. She felt that babies this age should sit in front of TV and watch the programs, so that they can keep quiet. If they are noisy, will need to take the pacifier, so that they can keep quiet. Afternoon naps for 2 times for 2 hours each, so that she can complete all her housechores and they can keep quiet. If they try to baby-talk, she will make a really fierce face and signal to them to keep quiet. That's why, all the babies she taken care of are all VERY QUIET. I've seen all her techniques and it scares the h*** out of me.

Almost quarrelled with her when I refused to let her take care of my 2 boys. Think the reason's obvious why.

[nohayo]

Winth, what's that brain enrichement course called? 

[winth]

Hi nohayo,

it's called Shichida Method.

[linzy]

Yes, I don't tel anyone about our program.  My parents are aware of it only on a very superficial level.  they have seenthe word and dot flash cards and Blasie has impressed them by reading some of his words.  But I know that the remainder of my friends, family and co-workers would say I was hot-housing my son.  I would rather avoid their disapproving looks so I keep it private although luckily my husband is 100% on-board.

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