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How do I answer my toddler's questions about genitals?
My 18-month-old daughter has been pointing at and asking about genitals — both hers and ours. How should I respond?
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Susanne Ayers Denham, developmental psychologist
No need to worry. Keep it short and sweet, and your toddler will follow your lead.
As parents, we can get anxious when children ask about anything remotely sexual. But your child's curiosity about genitals is no different than her questions about eyes, ears, feet, noses, and other less private parts. And genitals are pretty interesting, as body parts go. Her questions are only natural — after all, she has to learn about private parts from someone, and it's best for that someone to be you.
How should you respond? Be direct, and stay matter-of-fact. Follow the rule of thumb: "Is this how I would tell her about elbows or knees?" Give her the anatomically correct name for the body part ("vagina," "penis") and avoid baby talk — using funny or silly words will just confuse her and, if anything, makes the discussion a bigger deal. If she asks what they're for, you can say that genitals are for going to the bathroom. If you feel comfortable mentioning that they're also used for making babies, that's okay, too. She may not get it, but a child this age has no understanding of sex and won't make that connection.
She may also ask why Daddy's or her brother's genitals are different from hers. Point out that each person is unique: Her best friend's eyes are blue while hers are brown, and Grandma's nose is smaller than Grandpa's. In the same vein, boys' private parts look different from girls'. Keep it simple, and if you don't act embarrassed, she won't be, either.
How can I get my toddler to stop touching his genitals in front of others?
How can I get my toddler to stop touching his genitals in front of others without giving him hang-ups about his body?
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Susanne Ayers Denham, developmental psychologist
First of all, don't worry: Children are curious about everything, including their bodies. He just needs a simple lesson in privacy.
At this age, such physical exploration has less to do with sex and more to do with cause and effect: Your toddler has noticed that touching his genitals makes him feel good. (While it's not often discussed, prepubescent children do get pleasurable sensations from touching their genitals, just like everybody else.)
Tell your toddler you understand that what he's doing feels good, but that certain activities are best done in private. Suggest that he wait till he's alone in his room if he feels like touching himself. As an analogy, you can point out how Mommy and Daddy need privacy when they take a shower or use the bathroom. Come up with a simple signal you can use, such as a special code word, to get his attention if he forgets and touches his genitals in public.
If the public touching ceases, you shouldn't call any more attention to the issue. If it continues, check with his pediatrician to make sure your child isn't touching himself because he's uncomfortable or in pain — a urinary tract infection or other health problem could be to blame.
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