I picked up Nurture Assumption from the library after reading this thread and I've now read most of it. It really got me thinking because I had pretty much dismissed the big socalization "fear" after reading so much on the topic when choosing to homeschool. It seems to be the expected question from non-homeschoolers....and homeschool parents just laugh to themselves because they've heard it a million times, right? Anyway, it really made me think about what type of group my sons will clasify themselves to in their elementry years...and will they be accepted or rejected?? Right now, many of their friends are not homeschoolers (they have many neighborhood friends and also friends from sports) and I'm wondering what will happen in a few years. They could easily be the odd ones out, right? Even in church, they could be the odd ones out as advanced homeschoolers. Is this the time to seek out a homeschool co-op (I already emailed two over the weekend! Lol) or some sort of club so they can see kids very similar to them on a regular basis and identify with them?? I really hadn't planned to join a co-op because, frankly, I just thought our time and money could be better spent doing other activities. Am I wrong? And is it better to connect with other homeschoolers in general or with other advanced kids who may be in school? Where do all the smart EL kids hang out? Lol. It's unfortunate that our piano lessons are solo because I know my oldest son could really relate to some of the other kids taking lessons. What else is out there? Ideas??
Of course, I love the idea of the family being the main influence...but I don't have five boys (yet...

) and I'm wondering more about what "requirements" are needed to make that work. After reading the book, it seems that just (suppose..big suppose) the neighborhood kids "rejected" them for whatever reason...the damage is done and their personalities would be different. I would think they wouldn't even need to spend much time with them at all for that to happen, right?? If that's the case, I might not have any control over it? Is something like that still as meaningful if they have another group that they're connected with? I don't like that this book has me back to thinking about peers - LOL! I thought I had that covered

. I'm looking forward to reading the other two books!