If the above doesn't work you could try having her make the letters in clay. Roll out clay/playdough 'snakes' and  then form the letters. This works well with children that are learning to print so I think it would work for cursive too.

I used 'What your Preschooler Needs to Know" along with the corresponding activity book. My son loved it!
Link to the book is below.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0385341989/ref=pd_lpo_k2_dp_sr_1?pf_rd_p=486539851&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=0881661465&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=175W1Y4ASMTJ8XMV3D9E

Also if you go to www.coreknowledge.org you can down load lesson plans for various ages and topics.

Hi, I have an Android tablet (Xoom)  these might run on the phone too. A couple my son likes are Kids Logic. Kids numbers and Math. I think if you do a search for Intellijoy you should find a bunch of Lite versionsof things like connect the dots,puzzles etc for free. Toddler World has shapes, colors and alphabet which might be too simple for 4 year old but it will help with learning to read some vehicle words and practicing printing letters. Teach Me Kindergarten is a basic addition and subtraction app.

I made a game of hopping, crawling, running, etc to  word cards I put on the floor. Also I'd say show me _________ with body parts or even pictures of the the thing.

Hi,
That's wonderful about how early your son learned to read. I bet he will help his little sister to read too.
No matter how brilliant and lovable our children are they are constantly changing so we need to change and learn with them, every age and child presents their own challenges. I don't think there is any negative to early learning-

I have a 4 year old son that sounds very similar to yours. I'm sure we could share some funny stories.

1) My son also wants to do grown up things, he's postive he can drive the car ( I think I have him convinced to wait till he's 16, but I'm not leaving the car keys lying around ) sometimes he even tells me he is going to work, tells me about his office all kinds of details, starts heading out the door to go to work . . . I just listen, acknowledge him and distract him from actually going out the door. Sometimes I play along 'OK see you later have a great day!'

I've had to talk with him about what he thinks of himself vs how other people see his body. 

As far as the going beserk when someone calls him little, I have had similar experiences. Kids have their own opinions and points of view just like adults -- they just haven't figured out the social way of handling it when someone's ideas don't align with theirs.The way I have handled it was to talk to him about it, then practice an appropriate way for him to handle it. . . Make sure he's well fed and rested and ready to listen, then bring up the subject --- I know you don't like being called little, or remember the other day when the lady at the store said . . . ? Let him say whatever it is that he thinks about it  no matter what it is. Then tell him that you are going to show him a different way to handle the situation (you can even ask him for his own solutions) Then practice a less emotional response. It can be as simple as you pretending to be the lady and saying whatever sets him off then him saying I know you think I'm little but I think I'm big or I'm not little I'm 4 years old! I really make it into a game so he has fun practicing it. If that is too hard for him then start with him pretending to be the lady and you showing him what he could say. Then when the situation comes up and he doesn't go beserk I really praise him for how he handled it.

2) Because we lived in a rural area where there were not many kids his own age he was not exposed to many children until about 6 months ago when we moved to the city. He was more comfortable around adults and would gravitate toward them or play by himself rather than try to interact with other kids his age -- he loved playing with older kids.

When we moved to the city I put him in a preschool so he could get experience with kids his own age - at first he tended to play by himself or just observe ther other kids from a distance. He had ALOT of questions about why the other children would cry or act certain ways when he came home - he just didn't have the experience of what other kids his age acted like - nobody had ever just grabbed a toy from him or cried because they missed their mommy --- now he is just as happy to be with children or adults.

3) What exactly is the situation with his motor skills that you feel needs to be handled?
Perhaps if you are more specific someone can post some other suggestions for you. Below is a link on what is age appropriate.
http://www.greatschools.org/special-education/health/724-developmental-milestones-ages-3-through-5.gs

When I am reading out loud to my son and come across a word I don't think he understands I stop and tell him the definition of the word and then I use it in several sentences. When I do this I have observed he starts using it in his everyday speech.

Assuming you get what you want out of "typical" early education and your child learns, and learns well, whatever it is that you are teaching them joyously and consistently, what are you planning for formal education? For example, if you have a 3-5yo who can read and do arithmetic and multiple step equations on a 3rd grade level or beyond, what are you planning to do for school? Put them in Public or Private School, Home School or UnSchool them?

I plan on entering my son into a private school that allows him to study at his own pace and at his own level.

If I couldn't enroll him in a private school where he coudl study at his own pace I would enroll him in a local Charter school that is part home school part in school class room.

Here's the web address for each of these in case you are interested.
http://mountainoaks.org/site/pages/page_1248135494.cgi
http://www.delphila.org/au_about_us.html   

Wonderful survey! I look forward to hearing the results.

Have you considered adding questions about how often the child sees others in the household reading?
Also is there an older child in the home that is already a reader or learning to read? If so what is the age difference? What did the younger child observe or participate in as a result of the older child reading?
Also might be interesting to know number of books in the house that the child had access to.
Was the purpose of reading ever clarified with the child? If so when and how?
Who else in the child's life supported or was opposed to early learning? (This might be a bit off the subject of the purpose of your survey but I'm sure it could have an overall effect on the success or failure of early learning)

Hey guys. I'm not sure what to do with my son. I started a full reading program with him in august and he was all into it. But now he is not focusing and not that into them anymore. But he loves EK bits, learning to tell time and stuff like that. Should I back off to doing the reading more incidental(like he still seems interested In reading flashcards if posted on the fridge or if I randomly point to them in books) and focus more on teaching other things like time, classical music and EK knowledge. And ideas would be helpful.
Thank you

Here're a couple other ideas to try.
Every night my son chooses a bedtime story for me to read to him. If he wants a second story I tell him sure but I'm kind of tired so you'll need to help me read the next one, then I read aloud pointing to the words  -- when I come across a word I know he knows or a word I want him to learn I'll say  'your turn' and he reads. I do this with as many books as he wants.

Another thing I have found works well it to have a conversation with someone when my son is within hearing distance, nearby playing. The purpose of the conversation is to enforce some positive behavior. For example my husband and I will be talking and I'll say something like 'Something  happened today that I really liked." My husband will say 'Oh what was that? Then I talk about whatever the behavior was that I want to praise whether it was good manners, reading or some ohter new ability - After doing this my son generally somes up with the idea 'all on his own' to do more of what ever it was that we praised.   

 
 
 

How about 'I'm fortunate enough to not HAVE to do that.'

Hi,
This is not a free program but I think you might like it. It starts with K but I think would work with a 3 year old.
http://www.mathusee.com/

I like www.scienceforpreschoolers.com

Hi Julie,
Hi, Sounds like you have a smart active little guy.
here are some ideas maybe one of them will be helpful.
0) Try to read to him at the time of day he is least active.
1) Make sure the subject is of high interest. ( I bet you already thought of that one: ) You can ask would you like to learn about ______ today? Then center your activities around airplanes or whatever, but use reading as one of the ways to learn about that thing.
2) Make sure there are lots of pictures, also act out or have him act out the story or draw his own pictures or act out the story with his toys. A little reading, a little acting out the story might be more fun for him back and forth.
3) Make sure you are not passing too many words he does not understand - if you wonder just ask, do you know what _____ means? My son comes up with some very funny misunderstandings at times like 'get a move on' means to 'be happy', If a story is confusing of course his interest will not remain.
4) Set an example and make sure he sees you and other people around him reading and enjoying it if you can.
5) He might like the more interactive stories that can be found on the internet such as at www.starfall.com. 
6) He might also like the type of book that is interactive where you read the story then at certain points he pushes a button with sound.

-40!!! EEK! You make me feel like such a wimp - it was 17 degrees here with a foot of snow and I thought I had it bad -- but then I'm in California so what do you expect?

I take colored pieces of paper and write words on them, then I put them in different locations on the floor and have my son run, hop, jump, walk backwards, roll, fast, slow etc ect to the word or to the color. its a great way to practice colors, alphabet and words and numbers. You could also do this with pictures. He stays entertained with this for quite some time.

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