Hi,

I am a mother of 3 girls, 2 1/2, 5 and 7 1/2 yrs. old.  When I had one child only, I often complained why I was a full time mother, and still find it so hard to take care and teach just 1 child.  All the moms older than 40+ gave the same ans.------------- it's because I've got only 1 child!!!!!!!!!!! I would feel much easier to raise kids if I have more than 1 child.

I did not understand why at that time, but now I can certify that those moms are right. We feel hard to raise 1 child because we have no experience to be parents, thus pay all attention on him/her, and they need all our attention, and if the kid have brother and sister, that 1st child have companian to live and play and learn and fight against,... and he/she will be too busy with the 2nd child to draw all your attention and time.  At the same time, you and your hus.'s focus can be sifted a bit, will feel more comfortable and relaxed, less stressful when the second child come, as you already have experience.

And the age diff. is 2.5 to 3 yrs. between the 1st and the 2nd will be good  and the children's age  is not too close and the 1st child have enough love and attention from mum. when it is young, and not too far so they can enoy playing together.

IF u are a full time mum, and without helper, surely it is hard to take care of 2 in the same time.  IF you can afford to hire a helper to assist u, it is not very difficult to raise 2 kids. No matter your financial condition, if your hus. want the 2nd child, he must promised to be actively involve in taking care of the children, esp the 1st one, and willing to sacrifice his personal time,...

At last, I can say you must not regret to have 2 children if you see 2nd child.2 children give you double troubles, difficulties, challenges, but at the same time, double happiness and satisfaction. Do not think for too long time until you cannot pregnant any more.

God bless you!

Nicam

the activities that is taught is practical and useful, I will try to play with my kids,thanks!

NIcam