@ nic31600, I feel sorry for u for what happened at mothers group. hope all is better for u soon. you are a strong person t survive all this...best of luck.
You need to consult opthalmologist for treatment. it could be trichiasis or trachoma. it could be due to some bacteria gone into the eye. take her to vision doctor immediately.
2010BEBES, boys normally start to speak much later than girls. I think he will be fine soon. i know a few kids who still couldnt pronounce at 4 or so. after a few years all was fine. so dont worry.