Hi there

I am wondering if it help ?

Hi TreasureTrove,

Hi Treasure Love,

Hi ya , thank you for the advices.

Actually, I have thought of it before.
It would be good and easier life if we lived in foreign country.

But in fact in China, getting divorces is forever a shameful issue.
People might think if the woman in the family got any problem.
School may think the child's parents are not decent in their relationship.
Scandals spread within the community.

So I better keep it unknown in the society of China.
And I am also planning to let the child study in Hong Kong, seems Hong Kong have less discrimination on these issue.
In Hong Kong, I may let this to be honestly disclosed.

From what you wrote I’m assuming that you have full custody of the child(ren) and the father doesn’t see them at all?  Are you asking about how to explain why the father is completely absent?

Yes, that's my concern.

Actually the children's father is not "gone", otherwise would have been easier to explain.
He is not in the family now ( guess you get what I mean ).

The child was born in Hong Kong. The family, however, is living in Shenzhen.

Say, crossing border is not a main concern, should the child be educated in Hong Kong or in China?

Hong Kong's education system is good in the in-school knowledge, but for the others it's not really good.
In China , though English learning is not as good in Hong Kong, children can learn how to take care of live and other thing themselves better.

Hard decision ya... so how to think of it if it was you ?

The child was born in Hong Kong. The family, however, is living in Shenzhen.

Say, crossing border is not a main concern, should the child be educated in Hong Kong or in China?

Hong Kong's education system is good in the in-school knowledge, but for the others it's not really good.
In China , though English learning is not as good in Hong Kong, children can learn how to take care of live and other thing themselves better.

Hard decision ya... so how to think of it if it was you ?

That is a tricky situation - one the school should probably give a little more thought. Having said that it could also be a way for your children to come to acceptance and the school should be able to offer help.

I think that talking about it in a natural way amongst yourselves will help you discover what they are and aren't comfortable with. If you can deal with the feelings that are most distressing to them or hurting them it will help them to heal and understand and will also help them to know how to vocalise what they are comfortable with when a non-family member asks.

If it can't be discussed openly at home it will be all the more difficult for them to discuss in a social situation.

Remember children need to be taught how to understand and label their feelings. A child in this situation is experiencing feelings that most children wont identify with for many years and will need help sorting through the array of confusing emotional messages their brain is experiencing. I think if you can help them to sort through these feelings, label each of them , express them and discover why they are there you will be on the road to helping them accept the situation life has thrown at them.

Once they have been through this process "divorce" wont sound half as ugly, it will be another word to describe another situation instead of a word filled with confusing emotions and negative connotations.

My first marriage fell apart and I had a lot of trouble with the word divorce, until I really went through and analysed what I was feeling and sorted through it and accepted it, then it ceased to be an issue when I had to tick the divorced box instead of the married box on govt forms.

A key factor in helping your children deal with this situation is that you need to have dealt with it yourself. They will be guided by you in this. I wish you strength and courage, self-analyzing can be a confronting expedition but is well worth it. If you help your children while they're still young they will come out strong and self aware.

Also remember there are lots of support groups for yourself and for your children, you need not handle this alone.

It is so great that I got such decent answer.
I thought this question will be left unanswered as everyone on the site seems so lucky that all do not have such problem to deal with.
(Sure, they have time concerning their child knowledge as they dont hv to deal with these)

God bless u and have a happy life, we must get strong alone
yet , still , not telling the others will be better , otherwise , children will be looked down for not having a normal family
also , difficult to stand out if they got unfair treatment

Is it correct for my understanding that:
I can get certain percentages of the amount for the product which my referred member bought?

I found that there are quite a large difference between the selling price and the the amount record on my file.
eg. Value Bundle 2 + Box Set is $48.27, and Value Bundle 1 Box Set is selling for $524.00 ? ?

Can some body correct this weird calculation ?

By the way , my trial keys was gone and I am not able to use and apply for one again. The Software page tell me that I have no purchases up to date.
How many weeks is the key suppose to valid?

In schools, teachers and classmates like to ask about parents or related matters.

What can I educate children for answering such matters in a better way? ( instead of telling them "I dont hv a dad" , "my dad is gone" or even mentioning the word "divorce" sth like that)

Thanks thanks!