@PokerDad – I agree with your statement “You cannot assume that your child "has it" and move on from a skill at this age without periodically revisiting that skill (or EK knowledge, etc).”. I have a few instances to share about this from experience with my own child. He is now 6.5 and I used to avidly do all the EL when he was around 2 or so (you can see some of my earlier posts dating all the way to 2009).
I will tell you some things I was happy about and some things which I wished were a bit different.
First, I’m very happy about his reading progress – there is no doubt that getting a head start in reading will make things SO much easier later on (he is in 1st grade now). Had I taught him how to read later on, I can very well imagine how much he would have resisted me teaching him - I think it would have caused a battle between us, with me trying to teach and him running away from me!
I think reading is a skill that most EL kids will demonstrate very well.
About his math – this is one skill that I had hoped he would have showed better results for. I did the traditional Doman red-dot math with him where I would show him the math facts via the red dots. I was consistent but didn’t see any significant results. He could never ‘demonstrate’ to me that he knew the addition/subtraction facts. There is only one exception to this I have seen (there may be others that I’m not aware of) – About a few years back, there was a lady by the name of DomanMom (or something similar, I may have the name of bit off) – her son was amazing – he knew all his math facts only based off the traditional Doman Math approach. But that was the only case study and the only 'success story' I have ever seen myself. I tried to make my son achieve the same results, but didn’t succeed. What I found helpful was that at the age of 3 or 4, I had to personally teach him all his addition/subtraction facts. And I can tell you that this is certainly helping him right now when he is having his timed math quizzes at school. But if I could do it again, I would go straight to teaching the MATH FACTS and not do the red dots, as the actual FACTS are actually helping him in school right now.
About the EK knowledge – personally, I would have liked to have my son more interested in the subject of history. My ideal was DadDude who taught LOADS of history to his son - starting from a very young age. DadDude used to say that his son knows more history than he did when he was in the higher grades. I used to constantly compare my son’s progress to DadDude’s son I must admit.
But I wouldn't say that comparing is necessarily a bad thing – I think it's actually quite helpful because it inspires a parent to do better and set higher goals for their own child.
Although my son is just a bit advanced in some things, I am sure their are other kids more advanced than him. I remember how I had seen a kid almost his age skip kindergarten and go directly to first grade. I thought of doing the same with my son and discussed it with the teacher. She said that even if academically he was advanced, she thought its best to keep him in kindergarten because he needed to develop social skills. And let me tell you, keeping him in kindergarten was the best decision ever! I saw a different kind of change and maturity in him. I saw that he was HAPPY and as a mother, that’s my primary goal. So yes, it’s not about the ‘competition’ – it’s about making sure that our kids are happy also and know how to deal with life situations.
For example, right now I’m teaching my son about ‘anger’. I’m teaching him that if he gets angry and says something, he will most likely hurt somebody with his words – So I have made it a rule in our house that we will only have a ‘discussion’ if he is calm, otherwise we won’t. I told him that if speaks passionately out of anger and says something he doesn't mean, he will look like a fool later (he thinks I’m very ‘mean’ for using the word ‘fool’,
).
But I would say that my ultimate goal (and hope) is for my child to be a respectful and helpful boy - somebody who is going to go and interact with people, help them with their problems and get a sense of satisfaction from that. Ofcourse I also want him to be highly educated and know what he is talking about when he talks – so EL was a must for that. Reminds me of the quote “Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.” So that is the other side of EL that I think is equally important. A lot of my focus with my son is teaching him how to deal with his feelings, how to act in different situations at school/home - making sure that he is doing okay - both inside and outside. I tell him that he doesn't know what experience life is going to give him - he may have to face many difficulties in his life, who knows? But that he must be strong and positive and face those difficulties in a good way - I think it's good to tell the kids while they are young, because one day a peer's opinion may matter more to him than mine - So I think it's easier to have him 'soak up' all these principles at this age!
Now that I have given some insight about my personal experience, let me say that for a 16month old, your son is doing quite well! I remember that my son didn’t start speaking until he was about 2 years or so. If you feel that he is ‘forgetting’ something, don’t get discouraged or think that he doesn’t know. As long as you are being consistent, you will definitely be stimulating his mind the right way - and he will continue to amaze you in all sorts of ways.
And I think it’s wonderful you are teaching swimming to your son. I actually taught my son too late (at the age of 6). In school when he was asked to write about 3 things he disliked, ‘swimming’ was one of them.
He even drew a picture of that!
and by the way - I AM 'LittleMamaChamp' (just so you don't get confused). This is actually my old account which I used to use 4 years back. Altough I was quite active in reading the forums, I was always a bit 'forum-shy' - so I didn't used to post all the time. I had even made some powerpoints for the sight words back then. Now that I have developed the reading system, I came back to this forum to get in touch with some of the parents. You can read some of my older posts about Doman Math dating all the way back 2009 (wow, time flies!)
Best of luck,
Nida