queriquita
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Proud Momma to Joey (Born July 2009), Kaelie (Born May 2011), & Lucky (Born Aug 2015).
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« Reply #15 on: October 26, 2012, 02:05:25 PM » |
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*happy sigh* i am so grateful for you all :-)
cokers - your first post is exactly what's been pulling at me too. i think that brainwashing people into believing that 'giftedness' is primarily genetic is hogwash and that the sooner we take responsibility for our children's success, the sooner we'll be surrounded by upcoming generations who aren't taking us back in evolution. what's the point of those who lived before us if we're not going to pass on their lessons to those who come after us?
if we culturally acknowledge that it's primarily environment-based (as the limited data supports), then we'll have to acknowledge that we've been leaving MILLIONS in a disadvantaged situation and that through our own negligence, we've exacerbated the great intellectual (and resulting economic/social) chasm that's growing with each generation in our nation. and then we'll have to acknowledge *gasp* what the implications are globally. in my perfect world, though, the sooner we figure this out, the sooner we can FIX IT! ... and the sooner we can fix it, the sooner we can move forward towards working together towards truly enjoying life and discovering its many mysteries/truths while respecting each person's niche of expertise. as you may be aware, i could go on and on, but i won't this time. ;-)
sonya - you know i agree 100% with your post re: work ethic and 'giftedness'. i was one of those drop-outs *throw arms up* and a lot thanks to you i'm trying to go back and 'pay my dues' ... isnt' that how you put it ;-) not only that, we're missing so much research to support that the environment is so very key ... again, i'll spare everyone from the rant. i just want to make sure that 1) my kids don't get stuck being 'gifted slackers', 2) they don't get stuck alienated bc they refuse to throttle to socialize, and 3) they don't get stuck throttling because they refuse to be alienated.
and of course, like was mentioned in this post, i do get myself worked up SO VERY MUCH when i think about what i'm NOT doing with my kiddos bc i'm doing school work ... but ... some things that help calm me down are the realization that work ethic goes a long way, and that with a bit of desire and confidence, the brain's ability to fly ahead (plasticity) stays pretty amazing for years. also, when i get frustrated that i don't have time to teach it all, i remind myself that the ability to learn extends to multiple areas. the important thing is to keep making learning fun, and to teach them to appreciate the challenges/work required
it's funny - to this day i recall in much detail the exact moment when i learned the story about the tortoise and the hare. yes, i could make sense of it then ... but now it's message has so much more impact. i think that will be a big theme in our house here soon ;-)
big hugs to all of you - thank you for sharing so much of what you've learned with us, so that we can help teach our little ones and allow them the opportunity to discover more truths!
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