My older boy did TweedleWink - the DVDs - both the general lessons and the Math DVD. He wasn't really into the Math but he would pay attention to the general lessons. When the Math section came up in the general lessons, he would look away.
I talked to Wennie about that and she said it's fine. The right brain doesn't need to look to learn. It can even learn through the peripheral vision, unlike the left brain that needs to pay attention. I'm sure you've noticed how you talk to someone about something while your child appears to be occupied with an activity. Then later your child mentions that thing which you were talking about which you didn't think they would have heard? It's the same thing. The key is to relax and be happy and learning will come naturally.
Even though they say that dot cards are not appropriate for 3yo and above if they are just starting out, that's not to say you can't ever teach Math to an older child. Like I said, my older boy responds to Thomas and Friends and even asks for me to show him "Thomas numbers". If you can figure out what your daughter's mad about, try to incorporate it into your Math program. With a bit of creativity, you can have her begging you to do Math with her.
A couple of ways I do Math with my older son:
1. I use his toy trains as "counters" and ask him how many engines...
2. I've used Math jigsaw cards.
3. I've used Thomas and Friends characters instead of red dots.
4. I've also let him play an online Math game called "DreamBox Learning" -
http://www.dreambox.com/. They have a two week free trial so try it out first. When my son was younger, I tried to let him play DreamBox Learning but he didn't like it because it wasn't Thomas. Now that he's older, he actually enjoys it - which comes to my next point:
5. Just because they aren't interested right now doesn't mean they will never be interested. A child's interests changes - a few months down the track and things could be different.