Would like to know everyone's opinion on early socialization

[jsmonton]

My personal experience and my knowledge and own research shows socializaion does exceptional good to a baby below 12month but after that I'd advice be cautious on whom u r exposing ur child to BECAUSE it really affects them. Kyle was really obedient however active he is, until he was exposed to some toddlers fighting in front of him. this altered alot in his life n day in day out he started acquiring the ways other kids act....even recently he learnt from a friend's 4yr old gal to complain n throw tantrums....but worst i am facig his new learnt way of hitting whenever things dont go his way....any idea how to stop that?
I've tried ignoring, making him apologise everytime he hits and even lettin him hit more! NO LUCK so far!!!

hi kyle's mom, im not really sure if i can give u an advice since im a newer mom than u r, however, i have read in some parenting articles which might help resolve ur chanllenge at the moment. have you tried "time - out" where in u keep ur child in a corner facing the wall for some time explaining what he did was wrong. accdg to the articles, parents should try to rephrase the words use to the child, in order for them to be clear on what u exactly want.
i currently cant access my mails, but once i manage to open it, will send to the link on the article bout parenting/discipline.

i have found the link,
http://www.parents.com/preschoolers/discipline/discipline/quick-discipline-fix/
hope it can help u

[LongTallDrink]

I find Marina's more interested in older kids and adults when we go out than in her peers. I don't think it's particularly unusual.

As to the inappropriate behaviour, I highly recommend Barbara Coloroso's Kids are Worth It. It's a holistic approach to child-rearing that focuses on giving your child the gift of inner discipline. In fact, that's the subtitle. It's the best book I've come across on the subject.

[nohayo]

Nhockaday

Very interesting article and very true as well BUT I believe the most part depends on the parent...first by choosing the kids they play with (as much as possible especially in such an early age where this choice can be easily made) and second by discipline if and when they pick up something bad PLUS encouragement when they pick up something good... to me, socialization done right is a very good way to build your child's character...by "done right" I mean with parental discussions afterwards..etc...this is the time where you instill most of the baby's values and world-beliefs and this is the time when they will learn the most from you and believe you and seek to please you so why not take this opportunity and teach them how to deal with the outside world with its bad and good? Socialization now may teach them how to bite but later it will teach them how to steal or call names...it's probably better to tackle discerning the bad from the good in the environment now when they are ready to listen to you than later  when its harder for them to listen...

Of course, this is all AFTER choosing those kids he'll socialize with etc...that's the parent's pre-emptive responsibilty

I do believe that trying to raise an exceptional baby includes his character as well and i agree that when you feel he/she is ready (through curiosity and interest in other kids), its best to find a good enivronment where they can explore this new part of living

[nohayo]

Keyle's mom

I totally agree with the time out strategy did you try it? If you've ever watched super nanny that's supposed to be the right way to do it... you go down to his level, look him in the eye and be very determined and mean every word you say and explain why what he did was wrong and why you will not listen to him if he continues doing it and why he has to sit in the naughty chair for 2 minutes. sit him down for two whole minutes, if he gets up sit him back down firmly... until he stays

when the 2 mins are over hug him and tell him that you love him and thats it...

the key is to be very clear and very consistent with this method it will work ...jumping from one method to the other doesn't work...stick to this...also don't let him hit you! this is not ignoring! he is physically hurting someone and that shouldn't be tolerated by any means and dont give in... I've seen people who do this and it works really well...

all you have to do is be consistent and very serious about it at first and later on it will be bliss!

try it and tell me!!

[TaraSweeney]

Time out works but you need to explain to the child why they are there and then give them time to explain why they are they and apologise. I use it in school, we have a time-out chair. But would not recommend any child facing the wall- can have long term effects.

[cassidy336]

The article makes sense, however, I still like to get my son out of the house. 

I think it depends who you are playing with. I belong to an attachment parenting mom's group and with the exception of one child, all these children are very well behaved.  We get together in small groups and my son wants to know the names of each child and parent and he talks about them after we leave.  The other moms also interact with my son and I think more positive adult role models are good.  At the same time, I don't like what I see at library playgroups and other places where parents aren't as attentive as I am.   

I don't want to put him in a harmful situation, but sometimes I'm socializing so I don't go crazy.

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