Thank you for your insights. It's appreciated.
We focus on the good so much that we just don't want to focus on anything bad - until something like this happens right around the corner and it stares you in the face.
The guy that did this was a student at the UCH neuroscience division. PokerCub's grandfather is an instructor there (but not in neuroscience) and his grandmother works at UCH also. PokerCub was born at UCH. Grandpa's research building was shut down yesterday while the bomb sniffing K9 unit checked it out. Grandpa said he saw the dogs. The shooter's house is being carefully evaluated; it too is effectively around the corner from us and right across the street from UCH. I guess we'll learn more about why and how this all happened... but in the meantime, I appreciate thoughts on my wife's question "How will we raise him in a world like this?" - she didn't want to nurse him by herself last night and was having a lot of fear in general. That's no way to live. Eventually we'll have to teach PokerCub about the dark side of life - but we have a lot of time before that day.
As to the early sex problems. I know about this problem FIRST HAND. I didn't have the best childhood and will just say that in my particular case, waiting until 2nd grade to discuss some topics was too late. I do think my situation was aberrant and isn't the norm. My wife has always been horrified when I tell things from my childhood. Perhaps that's one reason I'm here and making sure I do what I can to equip our child the best way that we can.
I have a feeling that I will be in favor of homeschooling and I know that my wife is ardently opposed to it. It's a discussion we can have in a few years, though, and I think that early learning will hopefully put us on a track to even have the discussion. If the discussion were right now, it would be a non-starter and I'd lose without finishing my first sentence!